Unexamined Assumptions

Are you viewing all the possibilities?

Have you ever felt a strong desire to infuse real meaning into your life? The wherewithal to make this happen is within your reach. At this time in history, we are all needed to make a difference through sharing our personal gifts. Leaving this world without expressing who you really are is truly a loss to humanity. We all can make an impact through knowing our purpose in life and the gifts we bring to the world.

There are many ways to identify our gifts beginning with knowing ourselves, our beliefs, our passions, and our unexamined assumptions. Let’s explore this last one by trying on a different perspective of how we might live in this world and how the way we are currently showing up may be impacting our fellow human beings. I asked this very question of myself several years ago and became shocked at what surfaced in regards to my belief system, and the way the unintended outcomes of the decisions I made affected each and every moment of the day.

An unexamined assumption is a fact taken for granted that drives a belief and creates an opening for consequences to show up. One example of this could be the thought pattern, “If I want something, I must need it. If I want it and need it, somehow I am entitled to have it. I have worked hard and belong to a class of people who have access to these things. Plus, things will make me happy.” Are you tethered to a life where you have convinced yourself that happiness does not exist in the manner our culture created?

Ask yourself this question: “Where are my unintended outcomes showing up?” Most often they appear in the lives of the marginalized in our society and in developing countries.

We live in a world of speed and immediacy for wanting it “now” without thinking about our impact on our fellow brothers and sisters. Our greed and disconnect from other people and life forms continues to plunder Mother Earth and leave marginalized human beings thirsting to share in the so-called “good life.” Personally, I no longer want to live blindly and would like to question my every decision about the way I am living.

Your beliefs can be limiting conversations or paradigms that may or may not be unconscious. We all have limiting conversations that keep us small. Noticing what you are listening to throughout your day is the first step in awareness. Second step is shifting a limiting conversation to a more powerful conversation such as what you may be more interested in. Are you more interested in connecting with your fellow human beings or in connecting with stuff?

Do you want to uncover the stories and paradigms that are revolving in your monkey mind? If so, find the link at the end of this article and schedule your complementary strategy session.

I would like to invite you to play with the following unexamined assumptions and to identify some of your own. Get to know your beliefs and who you are being in the world at this time of exponential change.

 

Just the Beginning of Some Unexamined Assumptions

1. My comfort is more important than the suffering of others.

2. I have compassion for others who don’t have what I have and there isn’t anything I can do about it.

3. The way I am living has nothing to do with the torrential rains and drought that my fellow human beings are dealing with in their area.

4. Climate change does not exist. I don’t need to concern myself with this. I have my own challenges to handle.

5. Scientists will find a solution to the problems that exist. They always do.

6. The natural world, the Earth, exists to satisfy the needs and desires of human beings.

7. More is better.

8. Progress is growth and growth is progress. A healthy society depends on a growing economy. It is our job to consume to generate that growth.

9. We own the land we live on.

10. I have worked hard and I deserve to have the luxuries of life because I have earned them.

11. We deserve cheap gasoline so we can keep prices low and continue to live how we have been living for decades.

12. Having many children is good. We have a vested interest in maintaining the status quo. I will turn a blinds eye to the effect of having 9 billion people on the planet by 2050. After all, I won’t be alive then anyway.

13. My children will have more material things and a bigger life than I had.

14. One little individual can’t make a difference.

15. I can throw things away. Where is away?

16. It is okay to buy a lot of items as long as I recycle them. I will turn a blind eye to the cost of recycling and the use of precious fuel to do so.

17. I won’t recycle this bottle because I don’t know what bin it goes in and I don’t want to look ignorant while I figure it out. Also, my time is too valuable for this minutia.

18. I want a new newspaper. It is yucky reading one that belonged to someone else. What if they had dirty hands when they read it?

19. I don’t have time to learn about the Great Pacific Garbage Patch that swirls for hundreds of miles across the North Pacific Ocean. I throw my garbage away in the proper container bins. It never blows or lands in rivers or streams floating into the ocean to be caught in the floating junk yard created by humans.

20. I deserve to retain my family traditions of buying presents rather than focusing on deeply connecting with my loved ones on holidays. I would rather it be about presents than people.

21. It is tacky to wrap a gift in newspaper comics or to reuse wrapping paper.

22.  It is okay to throw away young people (in detention homes) for a mistake they made even though it is the same mistake my child made and got away with when they were younger.

23. Are you feeling alone wanting more support to bring your mission forward?

24. Are you wanting clarity about why you are experiencing stickiness?

25. Are you pulled to express your gifts and make a difference?

 

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!

Blueprinting Your Life

2020 Vision: How to Write and Live an Expansive Life

The Why

Are you a doubting Thomas? If you’re a doubting Thomas, know that you actually create your life so you get to create the life that you want. Will it be a life based on the conditions that you have or is it a life based on what you would love? You get to choose.

So if you’re not writing about your vision at this point, just dance around the house saying what you would love. Say I am so happy and grateful now that I am…., and just state what you’re doing in three years. Do this dance every single day for 21 days. Now write this vision for all areas of your life; health, career and relationships. At the end of your vision say, “This or something better still.” When you get clear about your life and you get clear about how the principle laws of success actually work, doors are going to open for you.

If you’re not taking action, then you’re going to get what you’ve always gotten. So do take action. When you’re clear and you are working your vision on the frequency that you see for your life in three years. Doors are going to open. We use three years to calm the paradigms and stories that come up when you go big. That’s the science of living a vision-driven life. As a door opens, you collapse time and your vision will occur in less than three years. You’ve got to get started. It’s what it’s all about. Absolutely what it’s all about.

I want to tell you a story about the Center for Attitudinal Healing which was started by Gerry Jampolsky and friends. They opened the healing center in Tiburon, California. Although it’s no longer in existence, it was a 20-year experiment. Gerry was a psychiatrist who began to read A Course in Miracles. He began to realize how things are created and he decided to create the healing center for kids who were catastrophically ill. Youth who had a terminal diagnosis could come and spend time learning to shape their thinking while going through a very difficult time.

Their definition of health was peace of mind. They reshaped the idea of how a child could be healthy and how their family could be healthy even though the child’s body was going through this catastrophic illness. The studies they did proved that almost all the kids, 98% of them landed outside the statistics for longevity in their particular disease. Their immune systems were stronger. They lived longer and they had a much higher quality of life while they were alive. There was an amazing shift that occurred when they saw that their body was their temple and they were more than their catastrophic illness. They began to create a life they wanted.

The Center for Attitudinal Healing was an exploration into how you can shape your thinking and align with well-being. By being at peace with what is in your life, you can shape thinking. Identify what you would love and be open to the universe showing you what you’re not seeing. Through this openness, you can actually move in the direction of what you would love.

When you’re not being your vision, it might be that the human experience of a negativity bias is coming up. No kidding. It’s going to come up and you don’t have to be the story you tell yourself or your negativity bias. Although neuroscientists know we have a Negativity Bias in our DNA, you can shift it. You can be who you want to be. It’s all about quality of life. It’s about being the best version of yourself that you can be. It’s about being in alignment with your vision.

The How

So moving on, you absolutely can take your health vision to the next level by saying, “I am the woman who is exercising. I’m getting on the floor and I’m doing stretching for 10 minutes a day and I’m taking a walk around the block. Once a week I go to the park and hike or walk and I am going to do that for 30 minutes.

If you blame yourself for anything that you are not doing such as walking or exercising, this contractive energy will interfere with your access to a higher frequency. You want to keep your frequency at a positive level that is not denying reality. Simply notice what you’re noticing, acknowledge that you are not doing what you said you would do and then take action. Take a step in the direction you see in your life, join a YMCA, or, or, or and be the best version of yourself going forward. Do this every time you notice you are not doing what you said you would do.

Write out your action steps. They don’t have to be huge steps. Just write them out and begin taking action.

Staying on a higher frequency allows your vision to happen. Not everything is going to be as you label good. Staying on a higher frequency will not always be easy and you can do it with ease. Try saying, “This is how it looks while it is all coming together.” or “This is my life and I am the man/woman who is doing this thing.”

The When

When I was headed to Southeast Asia, I had a flight to San Francisco where I was to connect with my overnight international flight. Due to storms and lightening in the Colorado region, my plane sat on the tarmac in Denver for four hours. When lightning stopped, the pilot would say, “I think we’re going to be able to take off. We’re in line now. No, we’re not taking off. They closed the rack again. Yes, they’ve opened the rack. We are tenth in line. No, they’ve closed the rack.”

For four hours, we sat on the tarmac while the lightning played its games. I could have been in angst. I could have been like, “Oh my gosh. This is just so horrible. I’m never going to get to Southeast Asia and will miss my first speaking presentation.”

Instead, I stayed in a state of possibility. The first thing I did while sitting on the tarmac was got on the phone and rescheduled my flight. I missed that flight as well by one hour.

When we finally arrived in San Francisco, I went to the United customer service counter. After rescheduling me a second time, they handed me a bottle of water, two blankets, a power bar, a toothbrush and toothpaste. Then I knew this was my new normal for the trip. I was stuck in an airport which has never happened before. So I found my own little corner and off I went to sleep with everything wrapped around my arms. In the morning, I caught my flight to South East Asia. As I stayed in the possibility of “What if?” I arrived in plenty of time to recoup before stepping on stage and remained in an expansive frequency.

I always wondered what’s going on with people who are stranded in an airport because it had never happened to me. Now I know and do not sit in judgment of others. I sit in curiosity as to what their story is and what occurred for them. I find it’s an emotionally satisfying way to live, to not judge other people for what’s occurring in their life. Holy cow, it’s phenomenal how staying in an expansive energy is a fantastic way to live. You can climb Mount Everest one step at a time.

It’s a process. You keep doing the shifting from judgement to your vision. If you notice you haven’t had success with living this way, know that it is a process. It’s about repetition and shifting to the vision you have for your life. Before you know it, you’re going to get a different experience.

The What

You must WRITE your vision out on a piece of paper…a big piece of paper. What vision are you creating for three years out for your health, your relationships and your vocation?

For instance, let’s look at your health vision. Are you writing out your actual diet, your exercise routine, meditation routine? Don’t say you’re going to meditate for an hour a day and you have not meditated in 3 years. As your coach, I know very clearly that it’s not going to happen. You might be successful for a couple of days but you’ll rubber band back. Tell me that in three years I am going to be meditating 30 minutes three times a week. That itself is going to make a huge difference for you. Now this week, your action step is to meditate five minutes a day. As your coach, I will totally support you with that vision and your action step. One of the core practices is to make a healthy choice today. Remember, we can climb Mt. Everest one step at a time.

Be taking action steps. Take small, sweet baby steps and you will reach your goal, rock and roll and shake and bake your life. Bye for now!

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!