Unexamined Assumptions

Have you ever felt a strong desire to infuse real meaning to your life? The wherewithal to make this happen is within your reach. At this time in history, we are all needed to make a difference through sharing our personal gifts. Leaving this world without expressing who you really are is truly a loss to humanity. We all can make an impact through knowing our purpose in life and the gifts we bring to the world.

 There are many ways to identify our gifts beginning with knowing ourselves, our beliefs, our passions, and our unexamined assumptions. Let’s explore this last one by trying on a different perspective of how we might live in this world and how the way we are currently showing up may be impacting our fellow human beings. I asked this very question of myself several years ago and became shocked at what surfaced in regards to my belief system, and the way the unintended outcomes of the decisions I made affected each and every moment of the day.

An unexamined assumption is a fact taken for granted that drives a belief and creates an opening for consequences to show up. One example this could be the thought pattern, “If I want something, I must need it. If I want it and need it, somehow I am entitled to have it. I have worked hard and belong to a class of people who have access to these things. Plus, things will make me happy.” Are you tethered to a life where you have convinced yourself that happiness does not exist in the manner our culture created?

Ask yourself this question: “Where are my unintended outcomes showing up?” Most often they appear in the lives of the marginalized in our society and in developing countries. We live in a world of speed and immediacy for wanting it “now” without thinking about our impact on our fellow brothers and sisters. Our greed and disconnect from other people and life forms continues to plunder Mother Earth and leave marginalized human beings thirsting to share in the so-called “good life.” Personally, I no longer want to live blindly and would like to question my every decision about the way I am living.

I would like to invite you to play with the following unexamined assumptions and to identify some of your own. Get to know your beliefs and who you are being in the world at this time of exponential change.

 

Just the Beginning of Some
Unexamined Assumptions

  1. My comfort is more important than the suffering of others.
  2. I have compassion for others who don’t have what I have and there isn’t       anything I can do about it.
  3. The way I am living has nothing to do with the torrential rains and drought that my fellow human beings are dealing with in their area.
  4. Climate change does not exist. I don’t need to concern myself with this. I have my own challenges to handle.
  5. Scientists will find a solution to the problems that exist. They always do.
  6. The natural world, the Earth, exists to satisfy the needs and desires of human beings.
  7. More is better.
  8. Progress is growth and growth is progress. A healthy society depends on a growing economy. It is our job to consume to generate that growth.
  9. We own the land we live on.
  10. I have worked hard and I deserve to have the luxuries of life because I have earned them.
  11. We deserve cheap gasoline so we can keep prices low and continue to live how we have been living for decades.
  12. Having many children is good. We have a vested interest in maintaining the status quo. I will turn a blinds eye to the effect of having 9 billion people on the planet by 2050. After all, I won’t be alive then anyway.
  13. My children will have more material things and a bigger life than I had.
  14. One little individual can’t make a difference.
  15. I can throw things away. Where is away?
  16. It is okay to buy a lot of items as long as I recycle them. I will turn a blind eye to the cost of recycling and the use of precious fuel to do so.
  17. I won’t recycle this bottle because I don’t know what bin it goes in and I don’t want to look ignorant while I figure it out. Also, my time is too valuable for this minutia.
  18. I want a new newspaper. It is yucky reading one that belonged to someone else. What if they had dirty hands when they read it?
  19. I don’t have time to learn about the Great Pacific Garbage Patch that swirls for hundreds of miles across the North Pacific Ocean. I throw my garbage away in the proper container bins. It never blows or lands in rivers or streams floating into the ocean to be caught in the floating junk yard created by humans.
  20. I deserve to retain my family traditions of buying presents rather than focusing on deeply connecting with my loved ones on holidays. I would rather it be about presents than people.
  21. It is tacky to wrap a gift in newspaper comics or to reuse wrapping paper.
  22. It is okay to throw away young people (in detention homes) for a mistake they made even though it is the same mistake my child made and got away with when they were younger.

How to Be an Authentic Leader

By Christine Kloser

Leadership. It means different things to different people. The word often gets tossed around loosely in reference to people who are “out in front.” But, are they actually leading? From the heights of Corporate America and the leadership of nations, to the pioneers of social movements and the leaders of small business… at this critical time in history, everyone needs to take a look at what true, authentic leadership really is.

Let me share a little about my experience as a leader and the transformation I made last week in this area. It’ll help you learn more about what I’m referring to as Authentic Leadership, and hopefully offer some insight into your own next steps as a leader in your life.

I’ve always been a leader, at least since I was 16 when I was voted the co-captain of the Majorette squad in high school. I stepped into more leadership when I was 18 and began teaching aerobics at the local fitness center. Eventually my natural ability to lead brought me to being a yoga teacher, retreat facilitator, founder of a 500+ member women’s networking group, seminar leader, author, coach, speaker, and much more.

In the past, I had a belief that in order to lead I had to be “perfect.” That nobody could know the truth about me… especially if I was struggling. That I needed to show up and shine and make sure it all looked good on the outside. In other words, my old understanding of leadership meant that I couldn’t be human, couldn’t be flawed, and couldn’t be seen as anything less than perfect. For me, that kind of leadership couldn’t last… so it didn’t.

And, last week, I was blessed to have the experience of an upleveling in my own understanding of Authentic Leadership.

Here’s what was different. I allowed myself to be HUMAN. I let my clients see that while yes, I was their Spiritual Guide and Transformational Book Coach, that I (by no stretch of the imagination) am perfect. I shared how I, too, sometimes… get mad at my husband, have a short temper with my daughter, eat too much chocolate, make poor decisions, push myself too hard, drive too fast, slack off on my exercise routine, etc.

I felt so freed up and powerful in speaking my truth in this way. Yes, I am a Spiritual Guide and Leader… and I am human. I swear the heavens opened when I truly “got” that this is the next level of leadership needed in our world.

What helped me see this was what happened after I shared. My clients (many of them in tears) shared how they were impacted by what I said. And, they began to see how THEY could step into a bigger role as a leader while bringing ALL of themselves along… their greatness, Divinity, and gifts… as well as their humanity. They received “permission” to step up and lead no matter what… because they, too, are human. It was a transformational shift for everyone.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen one too many “leaders” who refuse to let their humanity show. Who insist on being “perfect” and believe their students won’t ever know as much as they do. I’ve seen one too many leaders who won’t allow for feedback or suggestions on how to improve their leadership ability, or hide their struggling marriage, bad habits or failures in hopes of maintaining their “position.”

Well, in my experience, this old paradigm leadership simply isn’t sustainable. Eventually the truth catches up.

So, I invite you to ask yourself how you can be a more authentic, and therefore POWERFUL leader in your life? Whether you are writing a book, running a business, or leading the Brownie Troop! Authentic Leadership will help you, and those you touch, co-create a better world for everyone.

Namaste.

 

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Christine Kloser is a Spiritual Guide, Award-Winning Author, Intuitive and Healer whose spot-on guidance transforms the lives of visionary entrepreneurs and authors. Her passion is fueled by her own transformation in January 2011 – when after much success as an entrepreneur – she found herself curled up in a ball on the floor sobbing because she had lost it all. Letting go of the last shred of stability and security in her life was when she discovered her truth. From that place, she fearlessly (and faithfully) went on to create the most abundant, impactful and joyous success of her life in a matter of a few short months! Christine knows how to flip the switch from “broke” to “blessed” and shares her wisdom on how to do that in her complimentary Daily Wisdom Reminders. Go to www.BeyondMindset.com to receive your daily dose of inspiration today!

Taking a Stand for Yourself

By Christine Kloser

I’m a people pleaser by nature. I’m not sure if it’s because I was that “middle child” or because of the wounded part of me that wants people to “just like me.”

Most of the time, I feel it serves me to be a little extra attentive, caring, supportive, and generous with people who cross my path. I feel good when I know I’ve really given someone my best, and helped them with that extra something.

Needless to say, it’s takes a lot for someone to “cross the line” with me because I really do want to help as much – and as many – as I can. But, now and then I have an experience like I did earlier this week and I get to stretch and grow by taking a stand for myself… and that line.

Here’s what happened, and what I learned. One of my subscribers to this ezine has complained to me in the past on several occasions pointing out everything I’m doing “wrong.” My wonderful assistant, Tina, has been as kind and understanding as she can be in her responses to this person. But, earlier this week when this subscriber emailed yet again tell me how much I’ve disappointed and hurt her and how she hopes there’s at least one person I have helped… my line got crossed.

So, I took a stand for myself and had Tina respond back to her letting her know we’ll be permanently unsubscribing her from the list. (I usually don’t even see these types of emails from subscribers but I was checking something in Tina’s inbox and saw this message.)

It made absolutely no sense to keep someone like that on my list just to have one more subscriber. I hold what I share here with you sacred; I value you and what happened in my community of subscribers. This person felt like they were polluting the waters here, and trying to throw her negative energy off on me. And, I wasn’t going to have anything more to do with it.

What I learned is a deeper understanding that as I grow in reach and visibility, there will be more and more people who disagree with what I share, or simply don’t like me. And, it just doesn’t matter. I’m here to fulfill my bigger purpose and I can’t be bothered by those who chose to expend their valuable energy (or mine or my teams’) with complaints.

I can’t help but think of that great quote by Dr. Seuss that says, “Those who mind don’t matter; and those who matter don’t mind.” So true!

Here’s to taking a stand for YOU! Whether it’s removing someone from your list who is a complainer, completing a relationship with a difficult client, or simply saying “no” to something you don’t want to do. Taking a stand for yourself is an act of self-love, and you deserve that in everything you do.

 

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Christine Kloser is a Spiritual Guide, Award-Winning Author, Intuitive and Healer whose spot-on guidance transforms the lives of visionary entrepreneurs and authors. Her passion is fueled by her own transformation in January 2011 – when after much success as an entrepreneur – she found herself curled up in a ball on the floor sobbing because she had lost it all. Letting go of the last shred of stability and security in her life was when she discovered her truth. From that place, she fearlessly (and faithfully) went on to create the most abundant, impactful and joyous success of her life in a matter of a few short months! Christine knows how to flip the switch from “broke” to “blessed” and shares her wisdom on how to do that in her complimentary Daily Wisdom Reminders. Go to www.BeyondMindset.com to receive your daily dose of inspiration today!