How to Be an Authentic Leader

By Christine Kloser

Leadership. It means different things to different people. The word often gets tossed around loosely in reference to people who are “out in front.” But, are they actually leading? From the heights of Corporate America and the leadership of nations, to the pioneers of social movements and the leaders of small business… at this critical time in history, everyone needs to take a look at what true, authentic leadership really is.

Let me share a little about my experience as a leader and the transformation I made last week in this area. It’ll help you learn more about what I’m referring to as Authentic Leadership, and hopefully offer some insight into your own next steps as a leader in your life.

I’ve always been a leader, at least since I was 16 when I was voted the co-captain of the Majorette squad in high school. I stepped into more leadership when I was 18 and began teaching aerobics at the local fitness center. Eventually my natural ability to lead brought me to being a yoga teacher, retreat facilitator, founder of a 500+ member women’s networking group, seminar leader, author, coach, speaker, and much more.

In the past, I had a belief that in order to lead I had to be “perfect.” That nobody could know the truth about me… especially if I was struggling. That I needed to show up and shine and make sure it all looked good on the outside. In other words, my old understanding of leadership meant that I couldn’t be human, couldn’t be flawed, and couldn’t be seen as anything less than perfect. For me, that kind of leadership couldn’t last… so it didn’t.

And, last week, I was blessed to have the experience of an upleveling in my own understanding of Authentic Leadership.

Here’s what was different. I allowed myself to be HUMAN. I let my clients see that while yes, I was their Spiritual Guide and Transformational Book Coach, that I (by no stretch of the imagination) am perfect. I shared how I, too, sometimes… get mad at my husband, have a short temper with my daughter, eat too much chocolate, make poor decisions, push myself too hard, drive too fast, slack off on my exercise routine, etc.

I felt so freed up and powerful in speaking my truth in this way. Yes, I am a Spiritual Guide and Leader… and I am human. I swear the heavens opened when I truly “got” that this is the next level of leadership needed in our world.

What helped me see this was what happened after I shared. My clients (many of them in tears) shared how they were impacted by what I said. And, they began to see how THEY could step into a bigger role as a leader while bringing ALL of themselves along… their greatness, Divinity, and gifts… as well as their humanity. They received “permission” to step up and lead no matter what… because they, too, are human. It was a transformational shift for everyone.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve seen one too many “leaders” who refuse to let their humanity show. Who insist on being “perfect” and believe their students won’t ever know as much as they do. I’ve seen one too many leaders who won’t allow for feedback or suggestions on how to improve their leadership ability, or hide their struggling marriage, bad habits or failures in hopes of maintaining their “position.”

Well, in my experience, this old paradigm leadership simply isn’t sustainable. Eventually the truth catches up.

So, I invite you to ask yourself how you can be a more authentic, and therefore POWERFUL leader in your life? Whether you are writing a book, running a business, or leading the Brownie Troop! Authentic Leadership will help you, and those you touch, co-create a better world for everyone.

Namaste.

 

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Christine Kloser is a Spiritual Guide, Award-Winning Author, Intuitive and Healer whose spot-on guidance transforms the lives of visionary entrepreneurs and authors. Her passion is fueled by her own transformation in January 2011 – when after much success as an entrepreneur – she found herself curled up in a ball on the floor sobbing because she had lost it all. Letting go of the last shred of stability and security in her life was when she discovered her truth. From that place, she fearlessly (and faithfully) went on to create the most abundant, impactful and joyous success of her life in a matter of a few short months! Christine knows how to flip the switch from “broke” to “blessed” and shares her wisdom on how to do that in her complimentary Daily Wisdom Reminders. Go to www.BeyondMindset.com to receive your daily dose of inspiration today!

Taking a Stand for Yourself

By Christine Kloser

I’m a people pleaser by nature. I’m not sure if it’s because I was that “middle child” or because of the wounded part of me that wants people to “just like me.”

Most of the time, I feel it serves me to be a little extra attentive, caring, supportive, and generous with people who cross my path. I feel good when I know I’ve really given someone my best, and helped them with that extra something.

Needless to say, it’s takes a lot for someone to “cross the line” with me because I really do want to help as much – and as many – as I can. But, now and then I have an experience like I did earlier this week and I get to stretch and grow by taking a stand for myself… and that line.

Here’s what happened, and what I learned. One of my subscribers to this ezine has complained to me in the past on several occasions pointing out everything I’m doing “wrong.” My wonderful assistant, Tina, has been as kind and understanding as she can be in her responses to this person. But, earlier this week when this subscriber emailed yet again tell me how much I’ve disappointed and hurt her and how she hopes there’s at least one person I have helped… my line got crossed.

So, I took a stand for myself and had Tina respond back to her letting her know we’ll be permanently unsubscribing her from the list. (I usually don’t even see these types of emails from subscribers but I was checking something in Tina’s inbox and saw this message.)

It made absolutely no sense to keep someone like that on my list just to have one more subscriber. I hold what I share here with you sacred; I value you and what happened in my community of subscribers. This person felt like they were polluting the waters here, and trying to throw her negative energy off on me. And, I wasn’t going to have anything more to do with it.

What I learned is a deeper understanding that as I grow in reach and visibility, there will be more and more people who disagree with what I share, or simply don’t like me. And, it just doesn’t matter. I’m here to fulfill my bigger purpose and I can’t be bothered by those who chose to expend their valuable energy (or mine or my teams’) with complaints.

I can’t help but think of that great quote by Dr. Seuss that says, “Those who mind don’t matter; and those who matter don’t mind.” So true!

Here’s to taking a stand for YOU! Whether it’s removing someone from your list who is a complainer, completing a relationship with a difficult client, or simply saying “no” to something you don’t want to do. Taking a stand for yourself is an act of self-love, and you deserve that in everything you do.

 

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Christine Kloser is a Spiritual Guide, Award-Winning Author, Intuitive and Healer whose spot-on guidance transforms the lives of visionary entrepreneurs and authors. Her passion is fueled by her own transformation in January 2011 – when after much success as an entrepreneur – she found herself curled up in a ball on the floor sobbing because she had lost it all. Letting go of the last shred of stability and security in her life was when she discovered her truth. From that place, she fearlessly (and faithfully) went on to create the most abundant, impactful and joyous success of her life in a matter of a few short months! Christine knows how to flip the switch from “broke” to “blessed” and shares her wisdom on how to do that in her complimentary Daily Wisdom Reminders. Go to www.BeyondMindset.com to receive your daily dose of inspiration today!