Unexamined Assumptions

Are you viewing all the possibilities?

Have you ever felt a strong desire to infuse real meaning into your life? The wherewithal to make this happen is within your reach. At this time in history, we are all needed to make a difference through sharing our personal gifts. Leaving this world without expressing who you really are is truly a loss to humanity. We all can make an impact through knowing our purpose in life and the gifts we bring to the world.

There are many ways to identify our gifts beginning with knowing ourselves, our beliefs, our passions, and our unexamined assumptions. Let’s explore this last one by trying on a different perspective of how we might live in this world and how the way we are currently showing up may be impacting our fellow human beings. I asked this very question of myself several years ago and became shocked at what surfaced in regards to my belief system, and the way the unintended outcomes of the decisions I made affected each and every moment of the day.

An unexamined assumption is a fact taken for granted that drives a belief and creates an opening for consequences to show up. One example of this could be the thought pattern, “If I want something, I must need it. If I want it and need it, somehow I am entitled to have it. I have worked hard and belong to a class of people who have access to these things. Plus, things will make me happy.” Are you tethered to a life where you have convinced yourself that happiness does not exist in the manner our culture created?

Ask yourself this question: “Where are my unintended outcomes showing up?” Most often they appear in the lives of the marginalized in our society and in developing countries.

We live in a world of speed and immediacy for wanting it “now” without thinking about our impact on our fellow brothers and sisters. Our greed and disconnect from other people and life forms continues to plunder Mother Earth and leave marginalized human beings thirsting to share in the so-called “good life.” Personally, I no longer want to live blindly and would like to question my every decision about the way I am living.

Your beliefs can be limiting conversations or paradigms that may or may not be unconscious. We all have limiting conversations that keep us small. Noticing what you are listening to throughout your day is the first step in awareness. Second step is shifting a limiting conversation to a more powerful conversation such as what you may be more interested in. Are you more interested in connecting with your fellow human beings or in connecting with stuff?

Do you want to uncover the stories and paradigms that are revolving in your monkey mind? If so, find the link at the end of this article and schedule your complementary strategy session.

I would like to invite you to play with the following unexamined assumptions and to identify some of your own. Get to know your beliefs and who you are being in the world at this time of exponential change.

 

Just the Beginning of Some Unexamined Assumptions

1. My comfort is more important than the suffering of others.

2. I have compassion for others who don’t have what I have and there isn’t anything I can do about it.

3. The way I am living has nothing to do with the torrential rains and drought that my fellow human beings are dealing with in their area.

4. Climate change does not exist. I don’t need to concern myself with this. I have my own challenges to handle.

5. Scientists will find a solution to the problems that exist. They always do.

6. The natural world, the Earth, exists to satisfy the needs and desires of human beings.

7. More is better.

8. Progress is growth and growth is progress. A healthy society depends on a growing economy. It is our job to consume to generate that growth.

9. We own the land we live on.

10. I have worked hard and I deserve to have the luxuries of life because I have earned them.

11. We deserve cheap gasoline so we can keep prices low and continue to live how we have been living for decades.

12. Having many children is good. We have a vested interest in maintaining the status quo. I will turn a blinds eye to the effect of having 9 billion people on the planet by 2050. After all, I won’t be alive then anyway.

13. My children will have more material things and a bigger life than I had.

14. One little individual can’t make a difference.

15. I can throw things away. Where is away?

16. It is okay to buy a lot of items as long as I recycle them. I will turn a blind eye to the cost of recycling and the use of precious fuel to do so.

17. I won’t recycle this bottle because I don’t know what bin it goes in and I don’t want to look ignorant while I figure it out. Also, my time is too valuable for this minutia.

18. I want a new newspaper. It is yucky reading one that belonged to someone else. What if they had dirty hands when they read it?

19. I don’t have time to learn about the Great Pacific Garbage Patch that swirls for hundreds of miles across the North Pacific Ocean. I throw my garbage away in the proper container bins. It never blows or lands in rivers or streams floating into the ocean to be caught in the floating junk yard created by humans.

20. I deserve to retain my family traditions of buying presents rather than focusing on deeply connecting with my loved ones on holidays. I would rather it be about presents than people.

21. It is tacky to wrap a gift in newspaper comics or to reuse wrapping paper.

22.  It is okay to throw away young people (in detention homes) for a mistake they made even though it is the same mistake my child made and got away with when they were younger.

23. Are you feeling alone wanting more support to bring your mission forward?

24. Are you wanting clarity about why you are experiencing stickiness?

25. Are you pulled to express your gifts and make a difference?

 

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!

Blueprinting Your Life

2020 Vision: How to Write and Live an Expansive Life

The Why

Are you a doubting Thomas? If you’re a doubting Thomas, know that you actually create your life so you get to create the life that you want. Will it be a life based on the conditions that you have or is it a life based on what you would love? You get to choose.

So if you’re not writing about your vision at this point, just dance around the house saying what you would love. Say I am so happy and grateful now that I am…., and just state what you’re doing in three years. Do this dance every single day for 21 days. Now write this vision for all areas of your life; health, career and relationships. At the end of your vision say, “This or something better still.” When you get clear about your life and you get clear about how the principle laws of success actually work, doors are going to open for you.

If you’re not taking action, then you’re going to get what you’ve always gotten. So do take action. When you’re clear and you are working your vision on the frequency that you see for your life in three years. Doors are going to open. We use three years to calm the paradigms and stories that come up when you go big. That’s the science of living a vision-driven life. As a door opens, you collapse time and your vision will occur in less than three years. You’ve got to get started. It’s what it’s all about. Absolutely what it’s all about.

I want to tell you a story about the Center for Attitudinal Healing which was started by Gerry Jampolsky and friends. They opened the healing center in Tiburon, California. Although it’s no longer in existence, it was a 20-year experiment. Gerry was a psychiatrist who began to read A Course in Miracles. He began to realize how things are created and he decided to create the healing center for kids who were catastrophically ill. Youth who had a terminal diagnosis could come and spend time learning to shape their thinking while going through a very difficult time.

Their definition of health was peace of mind. They reshaped the idea of how a child could be healthy and how their family could be healthy even though the child’s body was going through this catastrophic illness. The studies they did proved that almost all the kids, 98% of them landed outside the statistics for longevity in their particular disease. Their immune systems were stronger. They lived longer and they had a much higher quality of life while they were alive. There was an amazing shift that occurred when they saw that their body was their temple and they were more than their catastrophic illness. They began to create a life they wanted.

The Center for Attitudinal Healing was an exploration into how you can shape your thinking and align with well-being. By being at peace with what is in your life, you can shape thinking. Identify what you would love and be open to the universe showing you what you’re not seeing. Through this openness, you can actually move in the direction of what you would love.

When you’re not being your vision, it might be that the human experience of a negativity bias is coming up. No kidding. It’s going to come up and you don’t have to be the story you tell yourself or your negativity bias. Although neuroscientists know we have a Negativity Bias in our DNA, you can shift it. You can be who you want to be. It’s all about quality of life. It’s about being the best version of yourself that you can be. It’s about being in alignment with your vision.

The How

So moving on, you absolutely can take your health vision to the next level by saying, “I am the woman who is exercising. I’m getting on the floor and I’m doing stretching for 10 minutes a day and I’m taking a walk around the block. Once a week I go to the park and hike or walk and I am going to do that for 30 minutes.

If you blame yourself for anything that you are not doing such as walking or exercising, this contractive energy will interfere with your access to a higher frequency. You want to keep your frequency at a positive level that is not denying reality. Simply notice what you’re noticing, acknowledge that you are not doing what you said you would do and then take action. Take a step in the direction you see in your life, join a YMCA, or, or, or and be the best version of yourself going forward. Do this every time you notice you are not doing what you said you would do.

Write out your action steps. They don’t have to be huge steps. Just write them out and begin taking action.

Staying on a higher frequency allows your vision to happen. Not everything is going to be as you label good. Staying on a higher frequency will not always be easy and you can do it with ease. Try saying, “This is how it looks while it is all coming together.” or “This is my life and I am the man/woman who is doing this thing.”

The When

When I was headed to Southeast Asia, I had a flight to San Francisco where I was to connect with my overnight international flight. Due to storms and lightening in the Colorado region, my plane sat on the tarmac in Denver for four hours. When lightning stopped, the pilot would say, “I think we’re going to be able to take off. We’re in line now. No, we’re not taking off. They closed the rack again. Yes, they’ve opened the rack. We are tenth in line. No, they’ve closed the rack.”

For four hours, we sat on the tarmac while the lightning played its games. I could have been in angst. I could have been like, “Oh my gosh. This is just so horrible. I’m never going to get to Southeast Asia and will miss my first speaking presentation.”

Instead, I stayed in a state of possibility. The first thing I did while sitting on the tarmac was got on the phone and rescheduled my flight. I missed that flight as well by one hour.

When we finally arrived in San Francisco, I went to the United customer service counter. After rescheduling me a second time, they handed me a bottle of water, two blankets, a power bar, a toothbrush and toothpaste. Then I knew this was my new normal for the trip. I was stuck in an airport which has never happened before. So I found my own little corner and off I went to sleep with everything wrapped around my arms. In the morning, I caught my flight to South East Asia. As I stayed in the possibility of “What if?” I arrived in plenty of time to recoup before stepping on stage and remained in an expansive frequency.

I always wondered what’s going on with people who are stranded in an airport because it had never happened to me. Now I know and do not sit in judgment of others. I sit in curiosity as to what their story is and what occurred for them. I find it’s an emotionally satisfying way to live, to not judge other people for what’s occurring in their life. Holy cow, it’s phenomenal how staying in an expansive energy is a fantastic way to live. You can climb Mount Everest one step at a time.

It’s a process. You keep doing the shifting from judgement to your vision. If you notice you haven’t had success with living this way, know that it is a process. It’s about repetition and shifting to the vision you have for your life. Before you know it, you’re going to get a different experience.

The What

You must WRITE your vision out on a piece of paper…a big piece of paper. What vision are you creating for three years out for your health, your relationships and your vocation?

For instance, let’s look at your health vision. Are you writing out your actual diet, your exercise routine, meditation routine? Don’t say you’re going to meditate for an hour a day and you have not meditated in 3 years. As your coach, I know very clearly that it’s not going to happen. You might be successful for a couple of days but you’ll rubber band back. Tell me that in three years I am going to be meditating 30 minutes three times a week. That itself is going to make a huge difference for you. Now this week, your action step is to meditate five minutes a day. As your coach, I will totally support you with that vision and your action step. One of the core practices is to make a healthy choice today. Remember, we can climb Mt. Everest one step at a time.

Be taking action steps. Take small, sweet baby steps and you will reach your goal, rock and roll and shake and bake your life. Bye for now!

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!

Enhance Your Life

Be A High Performer

What does it look like to be a high performer? What does it look like to really bring your 2020 Vision into physical reality and have the life that you would love to live? As you see a bigger story for yourself, hiring a high-performance leadership coach will help you rock your results.

You may be asking, “What can a coach do that I can’t do myself?” For one thing, helping you identify who are you is huge. It’s about clarity and identifying your intentions and your values. Once you will arrive at the clarity, you are ready to take steps toward your vision.

Your standards of integrity are your values. When you put values and intentions together, you can create a vision for what you see going forward. Clarity is a mover and shaker in people’s lives. Many people ask this question, “What do I want?” Experience the present and see that the future happens now.

So focus on the future and stay in the present moment with the vision you have for your life. Your life intentions and your standards of integrity inform your vision and your vision can bring forth mover and shaker goals that really make the difference in your life, your business and your relationships. I encourage you to pick three goals in any one area or three over one of these areas: health and wellness, relationships, vocation, hobbies, or time and money freedom. Once you have a few goals, identify a few baby steps in the direction of your dream based on these new goals?

Goals generally are reached within three weeks to three months. Add on a new goal every time you reach the previous goal. Keep evolving and taking action steps. Remember, one step at a time will get you up Mount Everest.

Are you willing to be uncomfortable for the sake of growth then identify a stretch goals? Being uncomfortable creates exponential growth. As a power tool, you can step beyond what common sense would allow. Try it and let me know what your experience is.

It’s not about doing the same thing you’ve always done. If you do the same thing that you’ve always done, you will get the same thing that you’ve always gotten. If you’re not happy with what your life is like and the results that are occurring for you, then shake it up. Be willing to be uncomfortable and identify a stretch goal.

So I ask, “What do you intend to do with your life?” You are not getting any younger. Are you sharing your gifts and serving your family, community and maybe even the world?

Here’s the big catch: seek failure. Seeking failure is how you keep moving forward. It’s choosing an action and not being concerned about the outcome. It’s saying, “Let me try this action and if it doesn’t work out, it doesn’t work out.” Guess what? You get to try the next door with a new action behind it. It’s about always moving and shaking.

Ignore conventional approaches. Conventional approaches are approaches that most common thinkers would see as being practical, being safe. It’s about being a brave thinker not about being safe. Just being willing to consistently move forward. It’s not about buying a $20,000 car when all you can afford is a $12,000 car and there are other bills to pay.  To go out and buy a $20,000 car is not seeking failure. It’s definite failure.

See what door is for you to open. Don’t worry about, “Am I going to fail?” or “Do I have everything perfect for me to take this step?” or “Do I know everything that I need to know about taking this step?” It’s about really taking the leap because when you take the leap, you will have quantum leaps in your life. You will have things appear that you had no idea how it came about. It’s about taking massive imperfect action.

Make your move before you’re ready. It’s okay and moves can be small baby steps. When you’re noticing what you’re noticing and it’s, ‘oh my gosh, I’m not ready.’ ‘Oh my gosh, I don’t know how that’s going to happen.’ Just do it. Just do it. If it’s something that isn’t going to cause you to not have food in your mouth or your rent that month, then just go ahead and do it. Make your move before you’re ready.

It’s not about wishing and wanting because wishing and wanting are absolutely going to be wishing and wanting. You are going to cycle around and around wishing and wanting something. It’s about the pursuit. Dreams crystallize when they’re pursued. Action taken is pursuing your dream. No dream occurs without taking action.

Being vision driven is the expansive, easy way to live your life. It’s not being desperate such as, ‘I’ve got to have it.’ It’s about, “I want it. This is really what I want and now I’m going to take action. I’m partly ready and I don’t know how this is going to happen, but I’m going to go for it because I know when a door opens that is aligned with my vision, I can actually go through that door and it’ll be okay. I can be unattached to the outcome and know that I’m going to keep moving this dream forward. I know what my intentions and values are and I am vision driven.”

It’s like the game of football. Football has an offensive and a defensive side. If you’re always playing defense you’re never going to be able to score. You want to be playing on the offensive side. It’s trusting that taking the ball and running the ball down the field will make a difference. It’s about taking action because you can do this. You are ready. You’re a Blueprinter. You’ve worked on Blueprinting your life and have a solid state vision. You are vision driven.

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!

Befriending Your Fear

A New Paradigm

I experience fear all the time. I was in Denver for the weekend at a National Speaker Association board retreat as a new board member.  I found myself sitting at the table with speakers who have built powerful speaking businesses and have experience with board responsibilities. This created not only fear as the newest member to the board but terror. Here I am telling myself the story that I am a peon, a newbie, a person who doesn’t have a clue. Have you ever felt that way?

Let me tell you, my fear was rising up. That was the moment that I easily could have sent the president of the board an email saying, “Hey, you know what, I think I’ve changed my mind. This whole board thing really isn’t for me. I know there are lots of other people who would happily fill this position, so I am going to bow out.” I could have easily listened to my limiting conversations, played small and gone back into my safe and easy life. Yet, I could see that I would not be living the vision I had for my life. Growth would occur for me if I  went to that retreat and played full out. And growth occurred. Look what I would have missed if I had written the email. Holy Cow.

We all have a stories. We have paradigms. Here’s the good news: you are not your story and you are not your paradigms. They say our heart is our second brain. It’s our voice of wisdom and our standards of integrity. Go ahead and befriend your fear as the stories show up. Shift the limiting conversations, paradigms, monkey mind and all those other names you give for the negativity bias. It is running your unconscious thoughts. Most of the time, you don’t even know the stories are occurring.

Reframing the fear doesn’t mean that you can’t do it. It just means that you haven’t done it yet. Between doing and seeing lies a true story called, “You are more than that!” You can be more when you tell a new story. Try making a list of successes each day! Tell yourself, I did this and this and this. I succeeded with those things. Acknowledging your successes is important in the process of befriending your fear.

Acknowledging can be done in the form of gratitude because gratitude is on the frequency of abundance. When you’re grateful for your life, you absolutely can experience a different life. You can do something to completely change your state like reading your life vision every morning.

Know that you aren’t going to get to your vision. You  must come from your vision. You must walk through your life as if your vision is  happening already and then take action.

An example: you are a person who wants to donate your house for women who have been abused. With the clarity about your vision of donating your house, you then take steps for that to occur. If that means cleaning out a box every week from your basement because you know you’re going to be moving in three years, then you clean out a box every week. That’s how it works. Taking action in physical reality. Befriending your fear is always knowing that you are successful. Success is doing what you said you would do. So step into this big story. Step into courage and shift the normal human experience of fear. Know that you are making a difference.

Courage is moving ahead in spite of your fear. Most people who are successful have learned to embrace that fear. The big difference is that fear doesn’t have to own you. You are absolutely going to have the experience of fear, but you also have your vision. Once you decide to step into your greatness, fear is going to be a constant companion. No kidding! Fear is there to keep you safe so it will show up like a roaring lion when you shake things up and do something out of your normal activity. Shift it and be the person you know yourself to be.

Don’t back off when fear rises. Only back off with what is not aligned with your vision. If it’s not aligned with your vision or it’s going to affect someone else in a negative way, then don’t do it. But if it’s aligned with who you are and your vision, do it…even if it scares you. Do it afraid.

When you feed your faith, you will absolutely have the vision that you want. There are people who don’t know how to drive a car. One step they can take is a small as sitting behind the wheel of the car. They need to step into that fear in order to learn to drive the car. Another example: you want to write a book. Learn to create a book cover which is a step in the direction of your dream. You want to have a business then create your business card. Have courage to move ahead in spite of the fear.

Once you learn how to make friends with your fear, you can open new doors that before you would not have seen. Would you walk away from your of fear in order to be safe or practical?

Fear helps us know the way to growth and expansion. Through  growth and expansion, the path to creating a vision for a life you would love will begin to unfold. As Eleanor Roosevelt said, “Do one thing every day that scares you.” Does your vision scare you? Then it just might be big enough to be honored by your moving in that direction.

Winston Churchill said, “Success is moving from failure to failure.” Imagine that: failure to failure. Many people see failure as something they need to stop doing for the following reasons: They’re not good enough. They can’t do it. They need more education. They have to try even harder. So they stop moving in the direction of their dream.

Failure is going to rock your world, it will make you totally able to see what there is for you to see and how you can shift your focus in a bigger direction. So I ask, “How can you grow and evolve? What’s it going to take for you to really live your dream? Know that it is okay if you look at failure as an opportunity to learn.

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!

Get Unstuck & Develop Your 2020 Vision

Move From Stagnation to a Vision Driven Life

Each day when you wake up, do you think about the day in front of you? Do you create your day in your first waking moments, or do you leave everything to chance? We create each day through the breath we take. We will breathe another 365 days and then we will have created another year. You’ll either create a life by design or by default. It’ll either be a vision-driven design or a condition-driven design. Every day, we have the opportunity to create the life we desire.Colorado Rocky Mountains

I want to tell you this wonderful story, which is told by my friend, Jean Houston. I want you to listen to what the messages are…

A man was walking in a botanical garden and glanced down at a cactus plant. With that, he heard a little voice, “Mister, Mister, I’m a princess trapped in a frog’s body. All you have to do is kiss me and I will turn into my princess self, and I will give you any pleasure you desire.” The man bent down and put his hand out and the frog jumped on his hand. He brought  the frog up to his face, and then he put it in his pocket. He heard this muffled voice, “Mr., you don’t understand. I’m a princess trapped in this frog’s body. All you have to do is kiss me, and I’ll turn into my princess self and give you any pleasure you desire.” With that, he held the frog up close to his mouth and said, “Thankfully at my age, I would rather have a talking frog.”

What I love about this story is that most people think they should want what others have. That just because society thinks we should be living in a certain way, that we need to do this also? You get to decide for your dream. You get to decide what matters to you.

I know, as a child, I was truly a follower. I was afraid to do something different for fear that people would question what I was doing, question who I was, and look at me as if to say, “You’re really an odd bird.” Today, I can see that was keeping me small. I was being a follower. I was trying to do everything that everybody else did so that I fit in…but I realized that fitting in isn’t the name of the game. Making a decision for my life regarding what my passion is… is the name of the game.

Now, I would say that I’m not much of a follower. As you probably have figured out, that I’m not very good about following rules either and I really don’t want to. For me, it’s really tuning into what’s unique about myself and choosing what’s important to me. The key is honoring myself. It’s not about following everything else. So much of our society is based on wanting what other people want…keeping up with the Joneses.

Be willing to just make a decision and go with it. There’s no magical money machine. You must decide for your dreams and follow the proven systems of success in the way others have experienced success. It’s really important to try to get as clear as you can about what you want, not just because someone else says they want it for you, but what you truly want for your life.

In 1929, at the height of the Depression, someone had a vision to build the Empire State Building. At the height of the depression, they did it in 18 months, and it didn’t depend on the time as to when it started. It depended on the will for them to do it. Someone drove the project. Someone had the vision that there weren’t conditions that were going to stop them. The Depression wasn’t going to stop them because they could see it. If you can see it in your life, you can be it, do it, have it.

When you create a vision for the life you want to live, you want to be sure you are planting it in soil that is clean. Fresh soil, the best soil available because it is the soil for your life. If you plant your vision in soil with weeds, it is not going to survive. If we don’t kill the weeds, our vision is going to be toxic.

 

To be sure you are planting your vision in clean soil, ask yourself the following five questions:

  1. Does this vision bring me life?
  2. Does it align with my core values?
  3. Is there good in this for others?
  4. Will it cause me to grow?
  5. Do I need help from a higher power?

If the answer to all five questions is yes, then you are planting an amazing vision in soil that is fresh and clean. If any of the answers to the questions above is a no, then this is not your dream. If it does not align, go back to the drawing board. If it does align, you can stand in your power and integrity about moving forward with this dream. Go ahead and plant your vision in the soil of your life.

Think about a thermometer. It reads the temperature. The thermostat sets that temperature. Your vision is your thermostat. So suspend disbelief, put it on hold. If you rely on unseen forces then be willing to fail. There is power in that and there are lessons waiting for you so you can grow into the best version of yourself.

Take some time today to ask yourself, “What would I love to create? What do I love?” Write it down on paper. Now look back throughout your day to see if you are creating the day you desire and deserve. Being vision focused impresses into the mind of the infinite and clearly identifies what you would love. In other words, every action you take sends a powerful and clear signal telling the Universe that this is what I would love.

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!