How to Be an Intuitive Leader

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Change Your Thoughts

Are you a leader who spends time on personal growth?
This growing field is so important to leadership and evolution of the human species. Knowing that you have the ability to change your mind’s DNA is a game changer. There are many levels to being able to alter your DNA. The first step to this is recognizing the influence your thoughts have on your life.

I’d like to invite you to make a list of all the thoughts you experience in the next 3 minutes. Go ahead do it, just 3 minutes.
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Great! How did you do? Did you have 3, 5, or 25 thoughts? Congratulations on giving this your best shot.

Neuroscience has found that you and I have 12,000 to 60,000 thoughts a day, and upwards of 90% of your thoughts are in your subconscious. You don’t even realize you are having them. You are being hijacked by these thoughts over and over and are unaware of it.

Village children and mom’s come to see Muzungu’s

This article is not about how to uncover these subconscious thoughts. Know that you can peel the layers off these subconscious thoughts like peeling an onion. One approach is with the model of coaching I use, created over 45 years ago. You can ‘get at’ what is driving your actions and reactions each day. This article is about changing your thoughts through repetition and thus changing your DNA, giving you more experiences that you choose.  

As the subconscious mind shapes the brain, it changes the DNA. In our culture, we have long felt it’s in our genes. “It’s just the way it is. There’s nothing I can do about it if it’s in my DNA.” Neuroscience has proven that you can reform your DNA through the thoughts that you have.

So you can actually improve it when you notice all the forms of energy you emit. Your thoughts, your words, your feelings and your actions are energy. They express your belief system and create your life. If everything is energy, then your thoughts and emotions permeate the Universe. Your thoughts can be positive or negative all the while changing your brain through neural-plasticity, thus changing your DNA.

You can change your brain through repetition, in other words through repeated positive mental activity. You are creating your life each and every moment of the day. So it is important to notice what you are noticing.

  • Are your thoughts expansive, seeing the possibilities?
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  • Are your thoughts contractive, formulated with condition based thinking?

What if the conditions that exist do not have to control the outcome and instead, a passionate vision controls the outcome? See my last blog post from March 2020 about how one person’s passionate vision helped to bring about the Empire State Building during the height of The Great Depression. You can be more interested in your passionate vision than in the stories held in your DNA. You cannot change your past but you can change your DNA going forward. 

You’ll begin to notice this information is popping up in all sorts of places in your life. Neuroscientists are studying the brain differently today through MRI machines. People have been talking about this for years and now the data is available.

In the 1800s, the transcendental movement was developed as a reaction to all that was happening with the Civil War and slavery. These Transcendentalists did not want to talk about what was wrong. They wanted to talk about the possibilities. This brought together a group of some of the great brains of that period such as Emerson, Thoreau and Alcott. They got together in Concord, Massachusetts and started the transcendental movement. The purpose of this movement was to use thoughts to shift the DNA, to shift the negative experiences in the world.

North Bali Sea

Realizing the potential of this information opens up the possibilities and makes people aware that life is a creation. Staying stuck in the programming and paradigms in your life is a choice. You can use thoughts to move out of a negative mindsets and into an expansive view of what’s possible. Staying in an expansive view and repeating this view reforms your DNA, changes your thought patterns and forms new thought patterns that will lead you in the direction of the life you want to live.

What steps can we take to reform our DNA expansively? Do something every single day that scares you and you have not done before.

  • It doesn’t have to be big. It could be walking up to someone who was kind to another person and acknowledge them for it.
  • Or something like when you are sitting with a group of people listening to a speaker, and the speaker asks, “Are there any questions?” Many people have questions and are afraid to ask them. Sometimes for me, I’ll sit in an audience, have a question and not be willing to step up and ask because it’s scary. What if people think that’s a stupid question? What if people know that the question was already answered when the speaker spoke, and I wasn’t listening? What if I’m putting myself center stage in an audience with all these people and what are they going to think of me? Are they going to judge my hair? What do they think of my clothes?

All of us worry about many things. Go ahead and be willing to step up and do the thing that you’re most afraid of. I guarantee if there’s a group of 50 people, 25 of them have that exact same question. There is a group mind that actually brings those questions about and you can be the person that is willing to take the chance to step up, step out and ask the question.

Fetching water and curious about Muzungu’s

Being more interested in the leadership can change DNA and change your mindset.

  • Go ahead and make a decision.
  • Say, “I am doing this thing.”
  • Then take action and do it. Move the focus of control to the center of your being.

Repeating successes builds neural pathways in your brain to have more success. Write successes down and then repeat them. Avoid failure by not focusing on it. It is inevitable that you will notice failure. When you do, shift your focus back to the success stories rather than focusing on the failure which builds neural pathways of failure. You want to build neural pathways to success by catching yourself having success. Give yourself a brain boost. It’s the neuroscience of the win-win and moving forward with your life. Repeat your successes.

If you can dream it, you can be it, do it and have it. Not only watch for opportunities to come up, watch for what you’re longing for, what you’re dreaming of. If you see it in your mind’s eye, you can be it, do it, have it. You have so many possibilities for your life. Playing small does not benefit anyone. Your leadership will make a difference as you stay focused on expansion and shift from negative or contractive thoughts that hijack your leadership. Do something you have never done before and “shift from saying I can’t, to saying, I can!”

How will you use your mind to change your experience? How will you use your thoughts to alter your DNA? You have the option to build the life you desire and to build the vision you know you dream of. This is your human right. Use your mind to shape your experience though your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions.

Forgiveness

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Forgiveness

Cutting the Cord

Forgiving so I could feel better about myself is not why I forgave my parents. Forgiving them was to release the energetic string that I had tied around them like an umbilical cord. It connected all three of us so deeply I was not seeing ME in the picture.

It was a dark and cloudy day at a cemetery east of Cleveland, Ohio. After spending many years in therapy trying to make sense of the various memories that were hijacking my life, I began to see that these memories owned me. I could not embody the life I saw as mine because I held them as an excuse for not being me. Confusion always popped up as my word of the day.

As confusion set-in, I would ask myself, “What did I say that offended you?” “What am I going to do differently so I experience ‘fitting in’ at work?” “Why do I always feel, ‘There’s something wrong with me.’”

And then I knew…there was something wrong with me. In spite of the many hours of talk therapy, journaling, crying, walking in nature and banging on drums, I still felt like I didn’t belong. It became all consuming to figure out what was wrong with me and what I needed to do “to fit in.”

So on that dark and cloudy day at All Soul’s Cemetery east of Cleveland, I sat by my parents grave. Yes they were buried next to each other even though they had been divorced for 20 years. Coming to one gravesite made it easy to do forgiveness.

Sitting by the headstone, I pondered the violence my young self experienced. My father had said to me on his deathbed, “Here you are the child I left crying in the crib so I could go to the bottle. Here you are taking care of me at this time of my life.”

I thought about the times I would wake in the middle of the night and my mother would be in bed with me…not my sister. I remembered the fear I felt knowing what would be next when my father cornered me in the bathroom. I thought about the time as a teen, I bolted out of bed having heard a huge ruckus and ran down two flights of stairs. Etched in my mind are the frightful faces of my younger siblings sitting at the breakfast table attempting to eat their cereal. There was my mother lying on the floor across the kitchen. My father had planted his fist in her face so hard that she and her cereal were separated. PTSD for many years to come was my reality whenever similar sounds occurred while sleeping and I would jump awake.

It wasn’t until I attended workshops at the Academy for Coaching Excellence https://acecoachtraining.com that my journey began to make sense. I was a compassionate, caring and kind woman. I was giving away my power to the excuses I was making. The stories I was telling myself were more powerful. Once I accepted that I am not my stories, I began to see the endless possibilities for my life.

Experiencing little emotion behind the thoughts was my indication that healing had occurred. I had cleared at a cellular level and was ready to move on when the string binding the victim to the story was severed. I was ready to infiltrate my life with friends who loved me and experiences that shifted the rumination of all that had occurred in my formative years.

More than anything, I was ready to cut the umbilical cord and free my parents to rest in peace. Saying  without anger that my parents did the best they could with what they had at that time of their life was more powerful. Releasing them from the cable that had held them to me was freeing. I knew that I loved them for who they were…my life bearers.

Throughout my mother’s last days, black birds became a sign for me. They would sit in the trees in my backyard, appear when I was in nature and show up while I was driving to visit her. Wouldn’t you just know it? There they were at my parent’s gravesite to confirm that I was on the right path. The dark and cloudy day turned to a sunny day…really…the sun came out and I could feel the warmth.

Everything is energy. I was determined to use the energy of my caring, compassionate self to make a difference rather than continue using the energy of my victim stories. I was going to rock and roll with the difference I was here to make. No kidding!

5 Unexamined Assumptions: Can You Relate?

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Do you have Unexamined Assumptions taking you out of the “game of life?”

What is the one gift that you came here to share and you know your life makes a difference?

Suppose, just suppose that you knew you were more powerful than your experience at this moment. Would it be alright with you to see this power expressed? Would it be alright with you to know that if you can see it for yourself, you can be it, do it, have it?

It has taken me a long time to be alright with my personal power. After all, I have this inner critic hijacking my power every moment of the day. Guess what?  So do you. We all do. It’s in our DNA to have our brain telling us what to do or not to do to keep us safe?

So what is in our DNA? The conversations that we have been listening to for the better part of our life. The conversations that we hear over and over. We hear them so often that we think they are true.

For example: “I don’t have what it takes to do this.” “I don’t have enough money.” “I shouldn’t bother because it has been done many times before.” ” No one’s going to care anyway.” “There isn’t enough time.”  If one or more of these phrases is part of your stream of thought, welcome to the human race. Every single human being has one or more of these phrases running their lives unless they have learned to shift their focus to what is more important to them. What are your Unexamined Assumptions to shift your focus from?

So the question to ask yourself is, “What do I choose to focus on?” This:  “No one is going to care.” or this  “I am going to start the business I’ve always dreamed of?”

Marianne Williamson once said,” Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world.”

Step Up Step Out book coverWhat is yours to do in 2017? What are your Unexamined Assumptions that are hijacking your should? Don’t rust away like an antique. Step Up Step Out and do what you
came me to do in this lifetime.

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Blueprint Your Life, Creating a Vision

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“Only with awareness can I make use of the opportunities that are there for me.”
Mary Morrissey

Thoughts become things. That is a law of the Universe. All of us have a burning desire for something bigger and many times we create stories around this desire. They often sound like, “I’ll do it after the holidays,” or “I don’t have enough time,” or “I don’t have enough money.” What if time and money were not part of the equation on your journey to enhancing your vibration? Would you go for your dream?

We can climb mount everest one step at a time. Our burning desire will step us into action if we decide for our dream. Now is the time! Our dream is more than just possible. It is necessary.

When I stepped into my dream, it took courage. Traveling for 4 years was a shift in my wobbliness. I had to stay solid state and at the same time, I allowed my eyes to leak so my heart could open. I chose to install new paradigms and it changed the trajectory of my life. You can do that too.

What if you could revive your dream and identify the one thing you came here to do? It’s about No Regrets. Today I was interviewed on Dr. Gayle Carson’s radio show, “Living Regret Free” with 20,000 – 30,000 listeners. If you had told me 5 years ago that I would be on a radio show of that magnitude with such an incredible woman, I would have told you “It will never happen. No-one is going to care about what I have to say. That’s a stupid idea.”

You see, I call these conversations ‘Dream Crushers.’ I had a dream to make a difference and at the same time I had paradigms that were hijacking my dream. Don’t we just all have those conversations? Don’t we all just see a bigger story for our lives and then take ourselves out of the game by what we say to ourselves? Perhaps we share our dream with a naysayer that feeds our paradigm and then we listen and believe the paradigm more than ever. That is why I had to get support from someone who believed in me and saw my greatness. There is greatness in you.

Bring forth your passion. Can you see what it is for you? Are you ready to take the leap regardless of what your paradigm may be saying. You can do this. You have the wherewithal to Step Up and Step Out. Now is your time.

To your greatness,

Carolyn Rose Hart

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