Summit the Fear That Holds You Back

Climbing the Rocky Mountains and looking over the edge at 11,200 feet on Arapaho Ridge is fear. When fear is present, noticing that it is there is the first step. It’s not about analyzing it, pushing it away or pretending it’s not there. Every human being experiences fear for various reasons. It’s part of the human experience and when you’re up to big things, it can be more intense. What works is to shift your focus to what is more important…your values and the vision for your life. At the moment I looked over the edge at 11,200 feet, I shifted to my value of clever so I did not get too close to the edge. What are your values? If you want to find out more, sign up for a complementary session with me.

When you see failure as totally not working and maybe say, “I’m not worth it,” you can try pushing it out the door or try to make it go away but what works is shifting it. What if you could shift this fear and just really, really move toward your dream, because fear is contractive and it’s going to hold you back. The truth fear is not going to go away. It’s your monkey mind swinging from doubt to worry and back to doubt again. When you’re stepping into your bigger vision in physical reality, and going for that dream, you’ll hear monkey mind get louder.

The secret to shifting your monkey mind is to work with a blueprint. Blueprinting your life is powerful. It’s like when you build a house, you blueprint the house. You can build your life the same way. It opens up the energy for the right doors to open.

So how do you work a blueprint for your life once it is complete? You read your vision daily and get excited about your new life. Then your vision becomes more interesting to you than the fear you are experiencing. Notice that it’s there and then shift to what’s more interesting to you. Take action toward one of three goals that you set goals for yourself from the blueprint? I highly recommend identifying three next steps in relation to your vision, then take action. Your goals and your excitement about the vision will move you forward toward your dream? You may know, goals do not have to be huge goals, just realistic goals.

Furthermore, every morning when you wake up write in your gratitude journal. It opens up expansive energy in your life. Then identify one thing that you are going to do today that will move you toward your vision. Say “If I don’t get anything else done today, I will do this one thing,” and then do it. Take action knowing it does not have to be huge. Just taking a small  step will open up the energy for you to move towards the vision.

Do you often get stuck and think that there’s nothing you can do about it? Maybe you set a goal and did not take action or you are no longer inspired about your vision. Remind yourself, that being stuck is a normal human experience. Just ask yourself, “What baby step can I take right here, right now, and then take it. Identify something that you can do in five minutes and then do it. This will get you out of the experience of ‘stuck’ and help you to see other possibilities for your life.

As you look at all these wonderful laws of success, know that you have to think successfully, talk successfully and act successfully. Know that talking successfully is the power. Words are power. Words are energy. Notice what you’re noticing and how you’re talking about what’s occurring in your life. “This really sucks” will take you down the rabbit hole of contraction.

Here is a thought, “Half of all failures in life are the result of ‘pulling up on your horse’.” What I mean is if you’ve ever ridden a horse, you know when you want the horse to do something you need to pull gently on the reins. Pulling hard causes the horse to get confused. It may even stop or turn around. You have to let the head of the horse down after a gentle nudge. It’s the same thing in life. Push and pull energy will not get you to where you want to go.

Are your failures in life because you pull up at the reins just as you’re  making progress? When you see that you’ve had a failure or you are labeling it a failure, and you are saying “Wow, I just have to give up on this one,” I say don’t. Like Winston Churchill said, “Never, Never, Never Give Up.” At the moment you want to give up, take a deep breath and hang in there. It’s the moment that the energy is going to open up for you. The energy is going to move forward and you’re going to make the leap. But, you’ve got to be noticing what’s going on for you. You’ve got to be noticing what’s happening. “Hang in there.”Take a small sweet step when you notice that you’re pulling up on the reins.

What can you do to move forward? What one small sweet step. Here’s the deal, the difference between someone who succeeds and someone who fails is the person who succeeds thinks they can do it, and the person that fails thinks that they can’t. It’s as simple as that. It’s all about your thoughts. Thoughts are the only thing you can change. You get to choose your attitude about life? What’s your attitude about the blueprint the you’ve created? Is this blueprint what you would love?

I highly recommend creating a solid state written vision for the life you would love. Blueprint your life. Know that life’s on your side. Everything you need is available to you. There is only a lack of creativity. If you can see it, you can be it, do it, have it. Lean into success. Don’t hold back. Have the desire to succeed and have an “I can” attitude. Make a clear mental picture in the form of a vision. What does your blueprint look like?

On a final note, work your vision because if you are not vision focused, condition focus will take over and pop up as monkey mind. It’s going to pop up as a story or as a limiting belief. If you have created a blueprint  then the moment you notice limiting conversations occurring, you can shift to your mental picture, and decide for your life. It is a decision you get to make.

Furthermore, make a list of everything you are doing in your life. Then determine what is not working for you. You will begin to notice how much time is spent on things that are not moving you towards your vision. S

So now, I highly recommend that you continue staying in this work. It works if you work it. It works if you continue to study the material and to study what’s possible for your life. A reminder at any moment of  what’s possible and how the laws of the universe work makes a huge difference. So, well done if you have chosen a mentor or a coach.

What I began to realize at 11,200 feet is that I was more than that. I had climbed this mountain and took in the scenery. My vision to stay healthy by staying active was shifting my fear. What is your vision for your life?  Go ahead, blueprint it!

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Unexamined Assumptions

Are you viewing all the possibilities?

Have you ever felt a strong desire to infuse real meaning into your life? The wherewithal to make this happen is within your reach. At this time in history, we are all needed to make a difference through sharing our personal gifts. Leaving this world without expressing who you really are is truly a loss to humanity. We all can make an impact through knowing our purpose in life and the gifts we bring to the world.

There are many ways to identify our gifts beginning with knowing ourselves, our beliefs, our passions, and our unexamined assumptions. Let’s explore this last one by trying on a different perspective of how we might live in this world and how the way we are currently showing up may be impacting our fellow human beings. I asked this very question of myself several years ago and became shocked at what surfaced in regards to my belief system, and the way the unintended outcomes of the decisions I made affected each and every moment of the day.

An unexamined assumption is a fact taken for granted that drives a belief and creates an opening for consequences to show up. One example of this could be the thought pattern, “If I want something, I must need it. If I want it and need it, somehow I am entitled to have it. I have worked hard and belong to a class of people who have access to these things. Plus, things will make me happy.” Are you tethered to a life where you have convinced yourself that happiness does not exist in the manner our culture created?

Ask yourself this question: “Where are my unintended outcomes showing up?” Most often they appear in the lives of the marginalized in our society and in developing countries.

We live in a world of speed and immediacy for wanting it “now” without thinking about our impact on our fellow brothers and sisters. Our greed and disconnect from other people and life forms continues to plunder Mother Earth and leave marginalized human beings thirsting to share in the so-called “good life.” Personally, I no longer want to live blindly and would like to question my every decision about the way I am living.

Your beliefs can be limiting conversations or paradigms that may or may not be unconscious. We all have limiting conversations that keep us small. Noticing what you are listening to throughout your day is the first step in awareness. Second step is shifting a limiting conversation to a more powerful conversation such as what you may be more interested in. Are you more interested in connecting with your fellow human beings or in connecting with stuff?

Do you want to uncover the stories and paradigms that are revolving in your monkey mind? If so, find the link at the end of this article and schedule your complementary strategy session.

I would like to invite you to play with the following unexamined assumptions and to identify some of your own. Get to know your beliefs and who you are being in the world at this time of exponential change.

 

Just the Beginning of Some Unexamined Assumptions

1. My comfort is more important than the suffering of others.

2. I have compassion for others who don’t have what I have and there isn’t anything I can do about it.

3. The way I am living has nothing to do with the torrential rains and drought that my fellow human beings are dealing with in their area.

4. Climate change does not exist. I don’t need to concern myself with this. I have my own challenges to handle.

5. Scientists will find a solution to the problems that exist. They always do.

6. The natural world, the Earth, exists to satisfy the needs and desires of human beings.

7. More is better.

8. Progress is growth and growth is progress. A healthy society depends on a growing economy. It is our job to consume to generate that growth.

9. We own the land we live on.

10. I have worked hard and I deserve to have the luxuries of life because I have earned them.

11. We deserve cheap gasoline so we can keep prices low and continue to live how we have been living for decades.

12. Having many children is good. We have a vested interest in maintaining the status quo. I will turn a blinds eye to the effect of having 9 billion people on the planet by 2050. After all, I won’t be alive then anyway.

13. My children will have more material things and a bigger life than I had.

14. One little individual can’t make a difference.

15. I can throw things away. Where is away?

16. It is okay to buy a lot of items as long as I recycle them. I will turn a blind eye to the cost of recycling and the use of precious fuel to do so.

17. I won’t recycle this bottle because I don’t know what bin it goes in and I don’t want to look ignorant while I figure it out. Also, my time is too valuable for this minutia.

18. I want a new newspaper. It is yucky reading one that belonged to someone else. What if they had dirty hands when they read it?

19. I don’t have time to learn about the Great Pacific Garbage Patch that swirls for hundreds of miles across the North Pacific Ocean. I throw my garbage away in the proper container bins. It never blows or lands in rivers or streams floating into the ocean to be caught in the floating junk yard created by humans.

20. I deserve to retain my family traditions of buying presents rather than focusing on deeply connecting with my loved ones on holidays. I would rather it be about presents than people.

21. It is tacky to wrap a gift in newspaper comics or to reuse wrapping paper.

22.  It is okay to throw away young people (in detention homes) for a mistake they made even though it is the same mistake my child made and got away with when they were younger.

23. Are you feeling alone wanting more support to bring your mission forward?

24. Are you wanting clarity about why you are experiencing stickiness?

25. Are you pulled to express your gifts and make a difference?

 

If you would like to explore creating a life you would love, or writing your 2020 vision, contact me, schedule a complimentary 20 minute phone call with me, Carolyn Rose Hart!